Tara: He raped me. He tried to kill me. I have to figure out how I'm going to walk again, never mind sing and dance. And you can't help me with any of that, can you? Tara had every right to be angry. She knew from the beginning that Navarro had connections, but Benson had promised she wouldn't let that get in the way of justice. Not to mention that Tara had lost everything and was willing to risk her life to testify against her mob-connected assailant, only for her case to evaporate.
She'd already proven that SVU couldn't hold onto Navarro for long enough to put him on trial, and there didn't seem to be any other legal recourse. Benson might have good intentions and might not want to give up, but there was nothing else that could be done, not really. It sucked, but that's how it was. She wasn't taking any BS. She insisted SVU be involved every step of the way, and for the most part, she got her way.
Stabler backed her up to get her in the interrogation room, but even he couldn't get one over on her -- she refused to let him kick her out of the room so he could talk to Navarro alone. I don't know if he meant to beat the guy up or just to share a secret plan, but either way, Benson wasn't having it.
She had planned to return to the West Coast in May to walk in her graduation ceremony, according to her family. Chandra Levy was then going to decide what to do next -- move back to D. Susan Levy said her daughter sounded happy the last time they spoke.
Chandra Levy went missing on Tuesday, May 1, But a search of the park found nothing. Her ID, credit cards and cellphone were still in the apartment.
The bill showed that Chandra had called one number often. ByCongressman Gary Condit had made a name for himself in politics: He was the youngest mayor in Ceres, California, history, and from throughhe never lost an election.
And I think part of that was my mom, as well, because she was really beloved. Gary Condit declined to be interviewed. InGary Condit was 53 years old, married and commuting between D. Though police never said Gary Condit was a suspect in her disappearance, he became the center of a media circus that dominated the headlines for months. Chad Condit said he always knew his father was innocent. Now, I was concerned politically. Never charged with anything -- very popular -- done the right thing all along.
So from a political, PR standpoint, it was very difficult. In the interview watched by 24 million people, Gary Condit said he did not harm or kill Chandra Levy and said he had nothing to do with her disappearance. When asked if he had a sexual relationship with Chandra Levy, Gary Condit repeatedly refused to answer. But, out of respect for my family, and out of a specific request from the Levy family, I think it's best that I not get into those details about Chandra Levy.
And I did nothing to slow down the investigation. He tries to get things done. He had told the police everything he knew. He was still married, he was still a congressman. There will always be a trigger for a bipolar individual, always. There are triggers for normal healthy individuals.
The difference between the bipolar and healthy individual is their approach to handling the trigger. The world is full of triggers — children, neighbors, friends, co-workers, bosses and yes, spouses or partners. If the bipolar individual is in denial of their diagnosis, which I would guess a lot of them are, close relationships will be I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets if not disastrous.
I have married for 32 yrs to a man with Bipolar. He had what we thought was depression 30 yrs ago. Then he had another breakdown. Took meds and the same thing. Now 2 yrs later, he is in a mental hospital. He has been in for 2 weeks and is bipolar. He is from the middle east and I thought he was just a jerk most of the time, or his culture. Always drama about somebody or making me believe that there was something wrong with me and every thing was my fault.
He thinks I am FBI in his delusions. Well there is a new sheriff in town and he is going to take his medicine or else. My boyfriend has just recently been identified as bipolar. We are expecting our first baby in 2. At this point we only talk about our dogs or things he can do to help me prepare for the baby. This article caught my attention because I do feel as though I make the situation worse when I try to talk to him or calm him.
Liz- I have been married to a bipolar man for 16 years. There is absolutely no way for me to know how he will respond. When it was just us for the first 8 years it was manageable.
Inwhen our oldest child was 1, he had an affair and I promptly left him. We were separated for about a year then reconciled. About a year later we had a second child. He has never been committed to taking his medications and believes that all drugs are bad for him including his prescribed medications. This disease is now affecting our children a great deal—socially, emotionally and even academically. He still denies that he has a problem and blames me for his actions.
I fear it will be a life long cycle for you to fight against and it will only be that much harder to break free from once your child grows older. I do wish you the very best of luck with both this disease and with the birth of your baby. Maybe he can be one to beat the odds?! Laura, our stories are eerily similar. Together for 15 actual diagnosis 4 years in. He does take his meds but thats it.
He self medicates with mostly pain pills and he has also had 2 affairs overlapping. You need to contact professional mental health services as soon as possible to get him into treatment. Prehaps you could talk to him about spending time in a closed rehabilitation clinic with specialists who can help treat addiction and bipolar — and a place where he has no access to drugs.
That way you have more time to think about what you want to say instead of being overcome by your emotions. Good Luck Liz — get professional help, get a clear treatment plan, and learn all you can about bi-polar and finally — be strong and get all the support you can from both your families and friends. Hello Liz, I have been married to a bipolar man for 12 years.
The most important thing you can do is have a safe plan for you and the baby. Your boyfriend will be like this the rest of his life. As far as triggering things, you just never know when that happens. Physical and verbal violence will usually occur as well. I personally would not recommend being involved in a situation like this.
Anything sets these people off. They are the problem not you. You cannot fix them. U may not be able to fix us but you can love us! To feel the tides change in your stomach from the top of a mountain! Or the sadness of people dying in another country from your bedroom! And I will respond gladly to that comment. Everyone has to live out their own choices. Summer, your reply is spot on. People do not understand what it is like to have Bipolar 1. We are not trash. We are intelligent people and yes, creative too.
Thank you for writing this! I was crying scrolling through what people were saying. About to go see a new therapist. Started some new meds that are screwing with me. Just lost my job. Feeling pretty down. And I read these awful things about people with bipolar and being in a I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets with them.
Tears flowing down my face. Thank you for standing up for us. Everyone is their own kind of normal and everyone is a different kind of normal. You are a broken but so are we all! Bipolar at some point or another behave horribly and say and DO things that are vindictive and cruel. But there is often a reason Your supporter would make a way for you but then you turn around and refuse to apologize or worse tell the source of your outburst they need to accept you as you are.
I have heard this one more times than I can stomach To love someone with Bipolar requires understanding truth But the Bipolar has to learn to appreciate the friends and family who fight mightily to understand to love to care to stay! I was 8 months pregnant when my spouse was diagnosed and treated in an inpatient psychiatric hospital.
I have spent years walking on eggshells, 13 to be exact, and my husband is also type 1 diabetic and abuses marijuana.
I left him 2 months ago when he was in a severe manic phase still is. They had to see him scream at me so many times and it took them crying in fear for me to see I needed to pack my bags. Most of the times it is not Bipolar which is Diagnosed, Real Bipolar cases are different, many who think married a Bipolar person is not true, Please dont generalise and stereotype….
I have bipolar and was diagnosed a year ago. I am successful personally and in business. I have many friends and healthy relationships. My husband blames my bipolar with everything that has gone wrong in our lives.
In my life right now he is the only one I have any kind of I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets conflict with. This weighs on me greatly as I need him more then ever and has made my depression worsen which gives him even more power it seems. I read so many negative comments about people with bipolar from their spouses yet wonder in how many cases they play a role and impact the relationship in a very negative way.
Thank you for sharing. I feel like I am reading my own personal story in what you have written. I was diagnosed 3 years ago but unwell for 7 years total.
Bipolar 2. I have a good job and education, but I feel the same as you describe, whenever I try and defend myself it inflames his temper more and the verbal and psychological abuse gets worse.
I have been cycling very rapidly, and nearly needed ECT recently because so severely depressed. Good luck. Sue, I totally agree with you. I came on here as someone with bipolar trying to better understand myself and how to deal with my partner who has chronic, debilitating depression.
I am also successful personally, career-wise, and have many health friendships. She has an incredibly hard time dealing with emotion, something which even the rest of her family agrees on, and he was undiagnosed bipolar. Two incidents stick out to me, since they are the two times I reached out:. She never tried to understand why I did it, why I resorted to that, how it made me feel, what I thought was happening, nothing.
She just got mad at me and scared me into going silent. After that incident blew over, we never talked about it again. I was probably 13 at the time. Then when I came home from university graduated with honours and told her I found out I had bipolar, again, she thought I was blaming her. I just wanted to talk about what I had been going through at school, at work, with my relationship, and try and make sense of what any of it had meant. And then once again, a very important conversation that needed to be had, turned into being about her and feeling blame.
Your partner may legitimately be giving you issues, but a lot of people with bipolar are just hurt people and a lot of us are quite different from each other.
How do people not feel bad about this? But a lot of us do it and work really hard. My husband has exhibited signs of being bipolar for years we have been married nearly 2 but together for He blames me and refuses to be properly diagnosed. When i try to understand his feelings he screams yells becomes violent and tells me to go away that me trying to understand is the problem and says a divorce will fix everything in his life and that he doesnt want to give me the opportunity to cheat on him which i never have, nor plan tobut he has cheated in the past and we separated for 3 months.
Being that i love him i want to help him and i am at a loss his family tells him to go see a doctor because they notice moods swings as well but he does not want to seek help but thinks that we are just trying to tell him what to do. Is there any advice you can give me or insight into how to get him to truely seek help for not just me but for himself. My spouse was just diagnosed BP, but i have know for years, She has been going through a very serious Manic phase that has threatened our marriage.
She painted me with the evil brush to literally everyone in our lives during this phase. Isnt is possible your having a hard time too? I wish my wife could of heard that before she did what she did.
I have been with my amazing partner for 5 years he has had bipolar for 7 years. He takes his medication every night without a doubt and has an app on his phone which he fills in each night to monitor his moods he also goes to his gp about once a month to monitor.
His very open to me about it an always asking how he has been or how he was at an event. He was in hospital for about 2. I look back now and can see signs that we should have acted on earlier and hoping in future we will know the signs a bit better and get stronger medication before it happens. He also wants to see a phycologist regularly to talk about everything which is awesome!
Now that we know what to look for etc. Hi Steph I have a similar situation to yours. My husband really wants to feel better. He takes his medicine, sees a therapist and has started exercising 5 days a week to try to manage his moods. I am so grateful that he can recognize that he has an illness that needs regular treatment. I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets have been married for 19 years and he has been hospitalized four times.
The first two times where only a few weeks apart so he should have just stayed in but our daughter was born while he was there and he was discharged for the birth and about for the week after. His last two hospitalizations were from extreme stress at work.
They were about three years apart. He is a high school teacher but he is definitely changing careers now. He is currently in the hospital and I miss him so much. I hope that helps. Married to person For 25 plus years. He was diagnosed at age It is depressing to me now, that after all these years and promising steps forward nothing changes with him.
It really feels toxic. My wife of 18yrs is Bipolar and we have known for 4yrs. We both know that she went un-diagnosed for many years as we grew are family. After a year a half of battle with addiction, we finally split our ways when she was diagnosed. I was the one that found it first while she was in recovery at the time. Now we have gone through her first full blown mania cycle and she did some damaging things to our relationship. I to look back and see the I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets that were creeping up to this episode.
I was filled with rage when I found out and still did not realize why she was doing it. She is now in the hospital getting treatment as I type this and she still feels that I am the enemy.
The trust has been broken, and she has not come to terms with what she has done to our family these last couple weeks. I know she will come around eventually, I am just not knowing if I can hang on. She has put up with a lot of BS over the years with me, and I her.
I do want what is best for her and for her to be healthy, just at what expense to my well being. My support system is not large and I know that hers is smaller inside as far as family and friends. Just need some advice, will this pass, or is she so upset that we are needing to split once again….
My spouse did something very damaging to our relationship during a manic episode this past winter. When he was still manic he thought I was over reacting and making a big deal out of nothing.
Once he was thinking straight he finally recognized what he had done. I have now forgiven him but he is having trouble forgiving himself. It might be different for your spouse. Her ability to forgive you depends on her perception of your intentions when you did the thing she is mad about, and if she feel like you understand the pain you caused her. One of the tricky things about having a relationship with someone struggling with bipolar is that their perception can be skewed.
Her perception is her reality. She needs to know that you get what she is feeling whether or not you think she is blowing things out of proportion or you agree with her. Hang in there! Marriage is a lot of work. Some factors that influence the outcome of this stage include:. Despair can have serious consequences for a person's health and well-being as they face the end of life.
Research suggests that ego integrity and despair are important life-space development indicators of well-being. Some of the consequences of despair include:. Those who are unsuccessful during this phase will feel that their life has been wasted and will experience many regrets.
The individual will be left with feelings of bitterness and despair. This stage of psychosocial development often depends on many of the events that occurred during earlier periods of life.
However, there are things that you can do to I Am Going To Rape You With No Care Or Regrets develop a greater sense of ego integrity as you age. If you find yourself experiencing a sense of despair as you age, there are steps that you can take to improve your well-being.
Some of the steps you can take include:. According to Erikson's theory, individuals don't experience integrity or despair all the time. Instead, most healthy individuals experience a balance between each as they begin to make sense of their lives.
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